With Soul | The Five People You're Surrounded by
the key to achieving your dreams is the energy you're around
Have you ever noticed that when you’re around certain people, you feel more energized? You leave your time together feeling more alive, more willing to be creative, or more eager to dive into an upcoming project.
And, then there are some people who absolutely drain you. If you work in an office, you might experience more than you care to admit. When that one secretary, or one senior partner, or one mid-level manager, enters the room, the energy is sucked out of it. They leave you feeling drained, anxious, or paranoid.
In fact, for some people, you are one of those two polarities. You are either a magnet for their energy or an absolute drain on them. It’s just how it is, really.
There is a theory that you are the five people you surround yourself with, so choose wisely. If you are surrounded by people who are always negative, have a scarcity mindset, or are constantly belittling your dreams, you’ll find yourself anxious or often feeling out of place.
If you surround yourself with people who are also looking to achieve their dreams, who believe in you and what you have to offer, and who support ambitious goals because they have a positive mindset, you’ll find yourself more than able to work towards your ambition, even if you’re not entirely sure how it will unfold.
As humans, we work better as a collective- but, it’s up to us to choose wisely.
It’s why we’re told to choose our partners wisely, because their energy will become yours, and you have to find someone who supports you without becoming insecure or jealous. It’s why we grow beyond friendships, why we pivot careers, and why we become sensitive to the conversation around us.
If you want to be a high-frequency person, you can’t be listening to a low-frequency conversation.
We face a daily challenge to rise to the demands of our greatest dreams, but it’s ultimately up to us to accept the challenge and break the patterns that keep us from achieving it.
So, how do you choose the five people? Do you tell them they’re the chosen ones? Do you start a group chat and force your insecurity onto them?
I’m kidding, of course.
Frankly, I think it’s much more simple than that.
Before you even choose your five people, you have to choose yourself.
In a society where we’re constantly surrounded by people, interacting with them on social media and text messages, the first step to changing your energy is to be okay with being alone.
Get to know yourself better. Outline your dreams, and write out your vision board. Look at your habits and patterns that keep you from them. Say the difficult things to yourself, learn to let go of what is holding you back, and be okay with the fear of the unknown.
Once you begin to feel comfortable with the uncomfortable, start to look for people who are living a life like you imagine. Or, expanders. Their life doesn’t have to mimic your dream life entirely, but what is it about their life that you admire or want for yourself? Write it down. Look it over. And, then say to yourself “if they can achieve this, so can I.” Because, really, the only limit to ourselves is the energy that surrounds us. When we begin to build a strong force around our dreams, we begin to see all the distractions that stood in the way before. It’s almost as if our frequency is dialed in and we no longer can deal with the static noise.
Once we begin to feel comfortable with our power, it’s then that we start to collect our five people. And, no- I don’t think a group chat or even announcement is necessary, ha.
Find the people who dream big,
Find the people who are focused.
Surround yourself with dreamers, believers, and cheerleaders.
Look for the people who believe in community, because they know competition only happens at the bottom.
Find the person who tells you where they got the outfit you complimented them on: those are the type of people you want to be around because they’re not gatekeepers.
If you come across someone who is confident, competent and feels good to be around, find ways to communicate with them more.
Be selective, but be the person in the front row cheering the loudest.
Soon, you’ll find yourself surrounded by cosmic energy, all on the same frequency. And, once you’re in that frequency, it becomes easier to tune out the rest of the noise.
Of course, none of this is actually easy. It requires daily work, boundaries, and vulnerability. It also requires letting go of old dreams in order to make room for new ones. It requires failure, it requires loss, and it requires starting over.
But, it’s within all of those moments that the best lessons present themselves. Just look inward and work on the parts of ourselves that didn’t live up to the standard we wanted to. We’re allowed to be ever-evolving and to live without the guilt of our past.
We’re allowed to live within our power: just ask the five strongest people you’re surrounded by.
As always, I’m grateful you’re here. Over the weekend I had a series of events that led me to realize what I ultimately want and I’m grateful for my five people who all led by example these last four days. As an empath, I’m sensitive to the energy around me, but at each moment this weekend when I was surrounded by someone who misaligned with me, the universe had one of my five people cross my path to remind me there’s so much more waiting for me. This month has been a doozy, but I think I needed each curveball and sucker punch in order to grow.
I’ll see you Thursday with a little bit of Salt.